{"id":2821,"date":"2008-02-27T16:58:53","date_gmt":"2008-02-27T21:58:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mainecourse.com\/mt\/?p=2821"},"modified":"2008-02-27T16:58:53","modified_gmt":"2008-02-27T21:58:53","slug":"the-country-of-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mainecourse.com\/mt\/2008\/02\/27\/the-country-of-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"The Country Of Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>by Wendell Berry<\/p>\n<p>1.<\/p>\n<p>I dream of you walking at night along the streams<br \/>\nof the country of my birth, warm blooms and the nightsongs,<br \/>\nof birds opening around you as you walk.<br \/>\nYou are holding in your body the dark seed of my sleep.<\/p>\n<p>2.<\/p>\n<p>This comes after silence. Was it something I said<br \/>\nthat bound me to you, some mere promise<br \/>\nor, worse, the fear of loneliness and death?<br \/>\nA man lost in the woods in the dark, I stood<br \/>\nstill and said nothing. And then there rose in me,<br \/>\nlike the earth\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s empowering brew rising<br \/>\nin root and branch, the words of a dream of you<br \/>\nI did not know I had dreamed. I was a wanderer<br \/>\nwho feels the solace of his native land<br \/>\nunder his feet again and moving in his blood.<br \/>\nI went on, blind and faithful. Where I stepped<br \/>\nmy track was there to steady me. It was no abyss<br \/>\nthat lay before me, but only the level ground.<\/p>\n<p>3.<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes our life reminds me<br \/>\nof a forest in which there is a graceful clearing<br \/>\nand in that opening a house,<br \/>\nan orchard and garden,<br \/>\ncomfortable shades, and flowers<br \/>\nred and yellow in the sun, a pattern<br \/>\nmade in the light for the light to return to.<br \/>\nThe forest is mostly dark, its ways<br \/>\nto be made anew day after day, the dark<br \/>\nricher than the light and more blessed,<br \/>\nprovided we stay brave<br \/>\nenough to keep on going in.<\/p>\n<p>4.<\/p>\n<p>How many times have I come to you out of my head<br \/>\nwith joy, if ever a man was,<br \/>\nfor to approach you I have given up the light<br \/>\nand all directions. I come to you<br \/>\nlost, wholly trusting as a man who goes<br \/>\ninto the forest unarmed. It is as though I descend<\/p>\n<p>slowly earthward out of the air. I rest in peace<br \/>\nin you, when I arrive at last.<\/p>\n<p>5.<\/p>\n<p>Our bond is no little economy based on the exchange<br \/>\nof my love and work for yours, so much for so much<br \/>\nof an expendable fund. We don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t know what its limits are\u00e2\u20ac\u201d<br \/>\nthat puts it in the dark. We are more together<br \/>\nthan we know, how else could we keep on discovering<br \/>\nwe are more together than we thought?<br \/>\nYou are the known way leading always to the unknown,<br \/>\nand you are the known place to which the unknown is always<br \/>\nleading me back. More blessed in you than I know,<br \/>\nI possess nothing worthy to give you, nothing<br \/>\nnot belittled by my saying that I possess it.<br \/>\nEven an hour of love is a moral predicament, a blessing<br \/>\na man may be hard up to be worthy of. He can only<br \/>\naccept it, as a plant accepts from all the bounty of the light<br \/>\nenough to live, and then accepts the dark,<br \/>\npassing unencumbered back to the earth, as I<br \/>\nhave fallen time and again from the great strength<br \/>\nof my desire, helpless, into your arms.<\/p>\n<p>6.<\/p>\n<p>What I am learning to give you is my death<br \/>\nto set you free of me, and me from myself<br \/>\ninto the dark and the new light. Like the water<br \/>\nof a deep stream, love is always too much. We<br \/>\ndid not make it. Though we drink till we burst<br \/>\nwe cannot have it all, or want it all.<br \/>\nIn its abundance it survives our thirst.<br \/>\nIn the evening we come down to the shore<br \/>\nto drink our fill, and sleep, while it<br \/>\nflows through the regions of the dark.<br \/>\nIt does not hold us, except we keep returning<br \/>\nto its rich waters thirsty. We enter,<br \/>\nwilling to die, into the commonwealth of its joy.<\/p>\n<p>7.<\/p>\n<p>I give you what is unbounded, passing from dark to dark,<br \/>\ncontaining darkness: a night of rain, an early morning.<br \/>\nI give you the life I have let live for love of you:<br \/>\na clump of orange-blooming weeds beside the road,<br \/>\nthe young orchard waiting in the snow, our own life<br \/>\nthat we have planted in this ground, as I<br \/>\nhave planted mine in you. I give you my love for all<br \/>\nbeautiful and honest women that you gather to yourself<br \/>\nagain and again, and satisfy\u00e2\u20ac\u201dand this poem,<br \/>\nno more mine than any man\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s who has loved a woman.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>by Wendell Berry 1. I dream of you walking at night along the streams of the country of my birth, warm blooms and the nightsongs, of birds opening around you as you walk. 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