Susan's Arrival

Susan’s plane arrived right on time – 2:16 P M – and from Logan Susan publicly transported her way to the West Concord T stop, which is but feet from Concord Park. Maybe thirty seconds into her visit, Flo assaulted her with complaints about “The Hole. “ The glop they serve, the atrocious bingo, the lack of a bathtub (“I can’t live another month without a tub.”) and the people. However, she did say she liked the coffee. And we thought Flo was a CP convert.

Sadly, our plans to scurry to La Cantina for cheese quesadillas and, most importantly, margaritas with rocks and salt (they make the best) were scuttled. The town suspended the Cantina’s liquor license. We settled for near undrinkable margaritas (too sweet) at Scupper Jacks.

Good Humor Zone

“Just heard Terry Gross do her 1990 interview with Paul? Brown, who died last week at 53 of a heart-attack. He was the fireman who became a writer. I actually mentioned him to you, as the result of an NPR broadcast in a late nineties that featured his life and work.

I thought you could publish your life on the internet, and, low and
behold, that’s pretty much what happened. The Blog appeared. Now you’re being discovered: by your self, your family, not mention an endearingly wide circle of friends. Maybe that’s where it ends, happily, without the wide world looking in, and the heart attack looking out.

When I thought I would write you about this story, I suddenly remembered how I had been reading the obituaries since I was ten. Not formally, but I’d always notice in the succeeding years how I’d fixate on the death of some kid slightly younger than me. My reflex would be …Well, I made it past him.

Funny how I hardly ever think about those thoughts, yet they were a regular fixture in my thinking for years and years, only to be replaced, for some time, by the feeling that I would be shot in the back on a dark city street, or in restaurant, which is why I hated sitting with my back to the door, and why dark city streets make my neck hairs stand on end. And why, I suppose, my dream would deal with that anxiety by featuring a dark urban night, where I suddenly faced a circle of figures with clubs, to which I responded, “Oh, I get it, this is a stickup.” And so it goes. There’s the fireman, dead. You, writing about deaths and your near-death experiences, and there’s me, still in my childhood factory of apocalypses, ringed by a good humor zone. ”

Holiday Train

South Haven and Annandale are the towns nearest to Torroemore.
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An estimated 1,000 people turned out on a frigid night in Annandale Monday, Dec. 13, to greet the Canadian Pacific Railwayís Holiday Train and donate items of food to the Annandale Area Community Food Shelf. The 12-car train, outlined in thousands of lights and with a Christmas tree atop the locomotive, pulled to a stop at the Oak Avenue crossing near Annandale Memorial Park.


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Auntie Sue and her daddy.

Friends

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Ginger and Diane in Monument Square in Concord in 1969.
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Diane’s high school boyfriend, Craig, died last week and his memorial service is today. As Diane said, “I thought those emails from West Nyack would never end.” Ginger offered to accompany Diane, and together they drove to New York. They left yesterday and spent the night in the Comfort Inn in Nanuet.

Monday night, Diane, doing her best to fit her journey to New York into her already overloaded family/work/holiday schedule was obsessing about, well, everything.

“What are you going to wear?” I asked. I thought the question would help her focus. Diane prepares the night before for her work day and frequently asks, “What should I wear?” I always glaze over.

“A black skirt and a green or black sweater. And if it’s cold, my black coat. Is that too much black?”

“For a funeral?”

“I can’t decide between my black skirt with the circles at the bottom or my shorter wool skirt. Which one do you think I should wear?”

“I like the shorter wool skirt.”

An uncomfortably long pause.

“Do you even know what the skirt looks like? The one with the circles at the bottom?”

“I can’t say that I do.”

A much shorter pause. I could feel the guillotine descending.

“Do you know what my black wool skirt looks like?”

“Of course not.”

Orchids

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Michael, Patti and Diane. The year? A long time ago. The event? Might have been a Canning anniversary celebration. Why post it? I stumbled onto yet another box of old photos as I was cleaning our guest room, preparing for Susan’s arrival on Friday.
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Small Talk

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I’ve written about Georgia before; Watson is his given name. After you load up your lumber you have to pass by George and wait while he matches your sales receipt to what is in your truck. When he finishes, he snaps the pink copy from the white and hands you the white. As he says, and I know this from experience, he’s not only looking for stolen goods, he’s making sure you leave with all you paid for. However, Concord Lumber didn’t have a guy in a guard box eight years ago, before the men in trench coats helped themselves to half a dozen nail guns.

Georgia is way past retirement age. He works because he hates to sit, and I suspect, because he needs more than his wife to talk to. Unless there are trucks pushing your rear bumper, you can’t say, “Hi” and “Bye.” I don’t even attempt to. We’ve talked about : his garden at home, the flower boxes he maintains next to the guard shack, where I’m working, his truck, my truck, other guy’s trucks, driving into Boston ( he’ll never do that again), and so on. Mostly small talk. Today I had more up my sleeve.

I rolled down my window and Georgia asked,

“What’s new and different in your life?”

“Georgia, how do you deal with loss?”

“Lost? When something is lost?”

“No, loss. As in death. When people die, how do you deal with that?”

“You just do. It’s a common thing. It happens a lot.”

“I know it happens a lot, but you’ve experienced more of it than I so I figured you’d have some ideas. Pearls of wisdom?”

I could see he’d been prepared to roll eyes when I told him I was working in a far off suburb, not to answer this kind of question. But then he began… .

“My father died when he was eighty-six from a heart attack. That’s how I hope I go. My mother took seven years to die. It was agony. But she was ninety-seven, as was her mother when she died. My wife’s sister died last year. She had oldtimer’s disease. She didn’t know nothing from nothing, and I mean nothing.”

“She had what?”

“Oldtimer’s disease. And I think my older sister, Doris, has a touch of that. I was talking to her, she lives in College Park, a suburb of…”

“Somewhere in Maryland…”

“Atlanta. She told me she was having four boys over to play cards. I thought, that doesn’t make sense, so I asked her, how old are these boys? She said, ‘Young fellas.’ I let it go at that and then I called my younger sister.”

“How old is Doris?”

“She’s eighty-four.”

“And your younger sister?”

“I think about seventy-four.”

“And how old are you, Georgia?”

“I’m eighty-two.”

“Jesus, they are going to have shoot you to get you to leave. I didn’t know you were eighty-two.”

“And everything changed at eighty-two. Eighty-one, I was fine, but as soon as I hit eighty-two… . I get tired now,  I can’t do as much.”

“Back to Doris… .”

“I told my younger sister about ‘the boys.’ She had asked me earlier if I’d noticed anything strange about Doris, and I told her, yes, but I couldn’t quote anything. This time I could. You know what? My younger sister told me those young fellas aren’t boys, they are dogs.”

“And I bet they don’t play cards.”

Georgia laughed.

“No, I don’t suppose so. They had to move Doris into a …what do you call it…not convalescent home, but … .”

“Assisted living?” He didn’t know he was talking to an expert on the subject.

“That’s it! She was living in a big house, a nice house, and you know what happened when they moved her?”

I could only guess.

“She had a fit.”

Tres Stooopeeed

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Two Sundays ago, Rick played his last piano gig of the year. I’d hoped he’d play holiday music, but he did not. Dan, who sometimes joins us, brought his poodle, Paxie. I’m still amazed at how that dog brightens Flo’s compatriots. Everyone wants to hold her, everyone but Lois(seated next to Flo). Lois told me she never had a pet growing up and regretted it, because now, she doesn’t like animals.

Lois taught French in high school and when I told her Dan spoke Frenc, she instantly engaged him in conversation. She then turned to me and said, well, I don’t know what she said, and I told her so. “Dan speaks French. I don’t. “ Lois turned back to Dan and said something about me with the word stupid in it. I know because it was unmistakable – stooopeeed. Dan laughed, I laughed, even Lois laughed. Dan egged her on, “You mean tres stooopeeed.”

Aunt Myrt

Aunt Myrt, Mark Queijo’s mother’s eldest sister, recently celebrated her ninetieth birthday. What to give a woman who must have most everything she will ever need? Click here to view her daughter Lois’s inspired idea, but first think 90 and think pink.