The Country Of Marriage
by Wendell Berry
1.
I dream of you walking at night along the streams
of the country of my birth, warm blooms and the nightsongs,
of birds opening around you as you walk.
You are holding in your body the dark seed of my sleep.
2.
This comes after silence. Was it something I said
that bound me to you, some mere promise
or, worse, the fear of loneliness and death?
A man lost in the woods in the dark, I stood
still and said nothing. And then there rose in me,
like the earth’s empowering brew rising
in root and branch, the words of a dream of you
I did not know I had dreamed. I was a wanderer
who feels the solace of his native land
under his feet again and moving in his blood.
I went on, blind and faithful. Where I stepped
my track was there to steady me. It was no abyss
that lay before me, but only the level ground.
3.
Sometimes our life reminds me
of a forest in which there is a graceful clearing
and in that opening a house,
an orchard and garden,
comfortable shades, and flowers
red and yellow in the sun, a pattern
made in the light for the light to return to.
The forest is mostly dark, its ways
to be made anew day after day, the dark
richer than the light and more blessed,
provided we stay brave
enough to keep on going in.
4.
How many times have I come to you out of my head
with joy, if ever a man was,
for to approach you I have given up the light
and all directions. I come to you
lost, wholly trusting as a man who goes
into the forest unarmed. It is as though I descend
slowly earthward out of the air. I rest in peace
in you, when I arrive at last.
5.
Our bond is no little economy based on the exchange
of my love and work for yours, so much for so much
of an expendable fund. We don’t know what its limits are—
that puts it in the dark. We are more together
than we know, how else could we keep on discovering
we are more together than we thought?
You are the known way leading always to the unknown,
and you are the known place to which the unknown is always
leading me back. More blessed in you than I know,
I possess nothing worthy to give you, nothing
not belittled by my saying that I possess it.
Even an hour of love is a moral predicament, a blessing
a man may be hard up to be worthy of. He can only
accept it, as a plant accepts from all the bounty of the light
enough to live, and then accepts the dark,
passing unencumbered back to the earth, as I
have fallen time and again from the great strength
of my desire, helpless, into your arms.
6.
What I am learning to give you is my death
to set you free of me, and me from myself
into the dark and the new light. Like the water
of a deep stream, love is always too much. We
did not make it. Though we drink till we burst
we cannot have it all, or want it all.
In its abundance it survives our thirst.
In the evening we come down to the shore
to drink our fill, and sleep, while it
flows through the regions of the dark.
It does not hold us, except we keep returning
to its rich waters thirsty. We enter,
willing to die, into the commonwealth of its joy.
7.
I give you what is unbounded, passing from dark to dark,
containing darkness: a night of rain, an early morning.
I give you the life I have let live for love of you:
a clump of orange-blooming weeds beside the road,
the young orchard waiting in the snow, our own life
that we have planted in this ground, as I
have planted mine in you. I give you my love for all
beautiful and honest women that you gather to yourself
again and again, and satisfy—and this poem,
no more mine than any man’s who has loved a woman.
It’s not that we don’t appreciate the poetry. (Although I needed several attempts before I could make my way all the way through.) For myself, and I imagine for others, it’s just too painful to consider that what I write might be read in conjunction with it.
Well that, but also — for myself (and I imagine this is only myself) I marvel at the depth of feeling in the poet and find myself coming up short.
Comment by jennifer — February 28, 2008 @ 6:34 am
I’m right there with ya … Faced with such exalted eloquence, it’s tough to go on record with what by comparison reads as, “Uh-huh … cool!” But I will say that this is kindred spirit to a psalm, and that the exalted language, imagining its import to you, and that filtered through the new territories you walk, all combine to make for a read that, while admiring, is somewhat squirmy … Beautiful piece, though.
Comment by el Kib — February 28, 2008 @ 7:44 am
Many poems I post are poems I’m fond of that have little or no connections to us. This one, the way I read it, is all about us. I understand the squirmy feeling.
We are more together
than we know, how else could we keep on discovering
we are more together than we thought?
You are the known way leading always to the unknown,
and you are the known place to which the unknown is always
leading me back.
Comment by michael — February 28, 2008 @ 8:10 am
You guys lost me on the squirmy feeling. Oops, no, you lost me long before squirmy, but that cinched it for me. Because though I hesitate at kindred, exhalted, psalm, import, and filtered, I thought I knew squirmy. Oh well.
Comment by jennifer — February 28, 2008 @ 8:56 pm
Wendell Berry’s poetry is so much finer than his prose. I started to read one of his prose books some years back, and quit in disgust. But he’s an extraordinary poet.
Comment by rakkity — February 28, 2008 @ 11:35 pm
Are you looking forward to Lee Child’s new book of poetry titled, “Nothing to Lose?” It’s about Hope and Despair, and it’s coming to a bookstore near you on June 3rd, or if you’re in the UK you can buy it at the end of March. (How nutty is that? Haven’t those blokes ever heard of the internet?)
By poetry I mean isn’t Jack poetry in motion?
Comment by michael — February 29, 2008 @ 7:47 am
We’ll be stopping at Heathrow in early May, so I may pick it up and get a 1-month jump on you, Michael.
Comment by rakkity — February 29, 2008 @ 12:44 pm
I really liked Wendell Berry’s short stories in Fidelity, but I’ve tackled two novels and found both tedious. I do recommend Fidelity though.
Comment by jennifer — February 29, 2008 @ 7:49 pm